Women’s voice betrayal.


The greatest leaders in history have all seemed strong: though all in different ways. Some built strong into their names: William the Conqueror,
Richard the Lionheart, Alexander the Great. Even our African kings had such names: Tenkamenin, Shaka Zulu, Samore You’re, Mansa Musse,etc. The
rest actually strong , Nelson Mandela working out in prison; and the more
recent crop of athletic- looking leaders: the Obamas in the gym, Christine
Lagarde’s daily swimming and Tim Cook with his 5am workouts. Paul Kagame walks and many others.
Strength is not necessarily physical fitness- we all know what happens with Goriath and David. 1 Samuel 17. That is what meets our
instinctive needs. People need to know that their leader will defend them
from external threats. They must look as if they will fight tooth and nail on our
behalf. It’s not about whether they are strong, it’s whether they seem strong.
Appearance is what matters, not reality. It might seem superficial, but this is
the way leaders are judged. Famously in the 1960 Nixon– Kennedy presidential
debates, those who listened on the radio thought that Nixon was the winner,
those who watched it on TV thought Kennedy came out best. The difference
was appearance: where JFK looked tanned, slim and healthy, Nixon spilled out
over his ill- fitting suit, twitched and sweated. JFK looked the stronger: he won.

Women leade are not exempted from this clause: great women leaders also
appear strong. Margaret Thacher, Ellen
Johnson Sirleaf, Aja Fatoumata Jallow, Angela Markel, etc all this women have something in common-law well apart from being kickass women leaders and trailblazers.

Remember the archetypal image of Margaret Thatcher

Thatcher developed an image of enormous physical strength even though, in truth, she would probably have lost an arm-wrestle with any one of the so- called ‘wets’ in her Cabinet. It’s not being strong that matters
in the Language of Leadership, it’s seeming strong.The Look of Leadership is largely an illusion. And Thatcher certainly
seemed strong, even though it was all a creation: her
breathy, low voice, her broad shoulder pads and high
heels and, of course, the metaphoric imagery of the ‘Iron Lady’ (a phrase that was actually coined by the Russians).

The voice is an important tool in body language. Sometimes it’s not what you say but about how you say it. The voice indicates strength. A low voice is a sign of strength. In the USA, all eight presidential elections between 1960 and 2000, the candidate with the lower voice won the popular vote.
When it comes to women also, the shrill voice is looked up as nagging, that is why such women are trained to speak in a low voice. Magret Thatcher is said to have received training, so did Hillary Clinton.

In some instances we need help as women and that help might come with just a simple lowering of the voice.
So when you’ve worked on everything else and the spice of the voice.

Tip
Pause to show strength. Great speakers tend to clock in at around 90 words a

minute. They achieve this rate not by speaking in a slow, tedious, patronis-
ing way, which would rapidly become very irritating and annoying, but by

leaving pauses between each idea: pauses that give people time to think.

Global Leadership Summit 2015 lessons learned


Global Leadership summit

On Thursday and Friday this past week I attended the Global Leadership Summit. I learned a lot and also learned to share. So here are a few of the lessons that I took and working on it’s application in my daily life.

  1. Grit: courage and resolve; strength of character. The grit development demands difficulty, you have to will yourself to task achievement. Overcoming physical challenges is one way, hanging around people who got it is another. ( waking up at 6, exercising, talk to people outside your hangout group….)

2. Who are you trying to impress? Thre is a thing called ‘blind spots”and everyone got it. Those are the things you have no idea exists, maybe its overworking, not talking to people, those around ( peers, family, close friends are the mirror to use in this case)

3.  What is it that moves you and drives you as a leader? What’s your hot white why ?

4. Surround yourself with people who grow youglobal leadership summit

5. People are not looking for performance they are looking for authenticity

6. True creators stay in the game

7. Each leader should ask: how will you change people’s lives?

8. Leaders have forfeited the right to excuses

9. Not all your sons will stay with you. Some people will have to go. Don’t try to hold on to people who are not there for you

10. You cannot sustain the strain of leadership without the hand of God

11. If you want to increase your influence, increase your capacity.

12. How bad you want something determines what you will do to get it.Global Leadership summit

Leaders should create new structures

13. Longevity is the greatest thing you can have for the glory of the Lord.

   14. Following you should hold the promise of life change for those who follow you.

As i examine myself, and try to apply these things one of my friends ( guess she is for keeps as she helps me grow) sent me this few note about starting new habits:

H  Have a Plan.  What is one specific habit you need to develop or eliminate from your life?

A  Add pain or pleasure.  What is the pain or pleasure that will result from this new habits.

B  Build in accountability.

I  Internalize the Truth.  Modify the way in which you think.

T  Try and try again.