2017 : new year new me syndrome



It’s a new year, and we are here today.

What have we done to be here? is it because we are the bravest? the strongest? the healthiest ? the smartest? The love of God is amazing isn’t it? His immense love and mercy has brought us this far, even though we are not the best nor the most beautiful. He is omniscient and omnipresent,  so I believe he has a reason for us being here.

 Lamentations 3: 22 and 23 contain some precious promises. Here we learn that God’s mercies and compassion do not fail; they are “new every morning”. Such being the case, we can start each day with the humble, confident assurance that whatever the day may bring, God will be near to help. In the book of Psalms, we find that the writer was in the habit of starting the day with God. We read “Morning by morning, O Lord, You hear my voice; morning by morning I lay my requests before You and wait in expectation” (Psalm 5:3 NIV).

So, my new year started at in a very unique way.:) ( Ask me about it, I might tell you)

And I felt,like many, that NEW YEAR NEW ME……This disease is contagious as much as we  deny it.

We normally hear the usual, “I’m going to start eating healthier and going to the gym more,” line when you ask someone what their New Year’s Resolution is. That’s an awesome goal to have, but if you’re going to be a “new person” this year, there are a lot more important things that you’re going to need to focus on. It’s much more important to start on things that are inside of you.So I come up with my own thing that you can do this few months when you are going through deciding on new year new me theme. Please not that this is in addition to your resolutions.

  1. 1d07f10360a346fb439e71b54019f710Know your personality type.
  2. Focus more on your strengths and personal improvement everday.
  3. Read about emotional intelligence
  4. 31fdfbd57fc955dfc6efd67041142391Do something you’ve never done before. Spend on something worthwhile ( definitely not shoes….think long term here) or should I say” invest”
  5. Leave the whats App, Facebook and other social media groups that you don’t understand the purpose or know only one person. If britain left who are you not to leave groups that don’t benefit you? click-on-exit-in-whatsapp-web
  6. Clean your mail box
  7. Drink more water. It is January and the sun out there is hot hot hot, buy a water bottle, curry water wherever you go.
  8.  Have snacks, healthy snacks.
  9. Learn to say NO
It’s easy to say no when your priorities are in order


Just do it!

10. Start today 

If you want what you never had, do what you’ve never done
This is chart is helpful especially to those of us who fall into the pessimistic group.

And just know that, no matter what you decide to accomplish in the next 360 days to the end of this year,…..

0df872650f30d235b7c43846ca2eda3a you can do it. Go for it.

Trim Natural Hair

“The time has come to lay that baggage down and leave behind all the struggling and striving. You can be set free as you journey forward into a balanced healthy and rewarding future.” 

― Sue Augustine, When Your Past Is Hurting Your Present

This also applies  to hair.

You have to get to a time where/when you have to leave behind the split ends, damaged, won’t curl hair. That  hair has to go!!! You need a trim. I am not saying to big chop ( cut a big chunk of hair, but some of us might need to just big chop and start afresh….but hey!not everything is for everyone)

So why do we need a trim? One is that that the ends of out hair are damaged ( read the post:Hair not growing! this is why) so apart from bad ends making the hair not grow, there are others like your hair  lacking shape and movement, breaking,  noticeable split ends, frizzy, the list goes on.

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But there is a solution, there is always a solution to every problem.


To solve this all you need is just sharp scissors.

Let’s take the case that you have just removed you protective style, you have detangled ( please be careful in detangling, remember your hair is weak) and have decided to get rid of the damaged hair.  What I personally do is two strand twist my hair then cut of that part that seems so thin.Hair-Trim

Another methode, that experts recommend, is to blow out your hair using minimum heat so that you are able to see the damages then cut.  hqdefault

There is really no science to trimming, just look where the damage is and cut! and watch what difference it will make. Yes the length might seem short but healthy will always beat length any day.


Benefits of a trim: healthier ends, less breakage: getting rid of the split ends will cause a reduction in hair breakage,

Retain length : getting a trim will help you retain length due to the reduction in hair breakage and split ends. When you have split ends and don’t take care of them, the split travels up the hair shaft and stunts hair growth

Easier Styling :detangling is much easier when your hair is even and can reduce the amount of time and stress in your detangling process

Thicker/Fuller Look – If you don’t get a trim, the split ends will start to taper off and your hair will look thinner


If you need a trim please, trim. Be it in relationships, or hair. No need for excess luggage. In the end  the weight sucks your happiness and your health. Let’s aim for quality relationships, friendships and hair rather than quantity.

Healthy over Lengthy. 

P.S    I would like to appreciate  my friend Lydia so much. We have been through a lot together these past 12 years! ( OH MYYYY 12 YEARS!!!!!) She gives me courage to continue. Thank You Lydia. Tout mon amour.



A Call For Health

During this past week (I think it was the hardest since the last hardest hardest) so much happened in so little time that I think my body could not keep up with the pace and the different emotions. So like any engine, it collapsed. I fell sick.I hate medicine, I know all about paracetamol, amoxicillin, Brufens, viatmine C, Glucophage, Cetrizet ,etc. And I hate them. Hence why I try my best to keep healthy. I wanna live until 103! Which is what I wanted to discuss about in this post.How important is your health? What do you eat? How much do you exercise? How much water do you drink? Who do you hang out with? What do you listen to?

What does it mean to be healthy? ( Google it! no, seriously google it?) In my layman definition of being healthy it means feeling good from the inside out.Not just body wise, but the body, mind and spirit. It is more than eating vegetables, it is much more than drinking eight glasses of water a day. It is about, yes, eating healthy but also having the right relationships, living in harmony with others and the environment and having a relationship with God.

As youths we assume that life is good, we are in the best shape of our lives ( got the six packs, play football- that’s exercise enough-I got my size eight shape and other girls are jealous of me) but we forget that what we do today affects our tomorrow. The binge drinking, the smoking, the sheeshas we take, the sleepless night we spend partying( some are holy than thou and don’t party but study; I’m not advising to stop late night sessions to study but remember your body needs 7-8 hours of sleep) has consequences later on in life. Newton well put it in his third Law : For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Lets invest in our health, money in the bank will mean nothing once you are six feet under.

  On the topic of good relations with others, I have said it before and will say it again and again: bad company corrupts good morals. In my political science class, the lecturer likes to say:show me your five friends and i will show you who you are. Are your five friends: the spoiled brat who thinks dad and mom will always be there to provide all the needs, the drinker, the YOLO type (which by the way I so much disagree with, You die once, you live everyday. So I’m YODO ),etc. Chose your friends wisely and keep those close once closer and spread the love make them feel loved. Don’t get to a point in time where you have to say  I wish  I had loved more, remember it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

Thirdly, please get it right with God. ( If today was your last day- Nickleback comes to mind). At the end of the day, we will have to give account to the Almighty. I will leave it there.

Physical Check-up
check-ups are vital. Your chances of treatment are better  and higher. 

A request :
Please, please tell your parents, aunts, uncles and everyone close to you to go for a health check-up. It is important can can save a life. Early diagnosis is vital. It can help find problems early, when your chances for treatment and cure are better.  Please make it a commitment to inform someone about early check-ups. It saves lives!why-prevention