Women’s voice betrayal.

The greatest leaders in history have all seemed strong: though all in different ways. Some built strong into their names: William the Conqueror,
Richard the Lionheart, Alexander the Great. Even our African kings had such names: Tenkamenin, Shaka Zulu, Samore You’re, Mansa Musse,etc. The
rest actually strong , Nelson Mandela working out in prison; and the more
recent crop of athletic- looking leaders: the Obamas in the gym, Christine
Lagarde’s daily swimming and Tim Cook with his 5am workouts. Paul Kagame walks and many others.
Strength is not necessarily physical fitness- we all know what happens with Goriath and David. 1 Samuel 17. That is what meets our
instinctive needs. People need to know that their leader will defend them
from external threats. They must look as if they will fight tooth and nail on our
behalf. It’s not about whether they are strong, it’s whether they seem strong.
Appearance is what matters, not reality. It might seem superficial, but this is
the way leaders are judged. Famously in the 1960 Nixon– Kennedy presidential
debates, those who listened on the radio thought that Nixon was the winner,
those who watched it on TV thought Kennedy came out best. The difference
was appearance: where JFK looked tanned, slim and healthy, Nixon spilled out
over his ill- fitting suit, twitched and sweated. JFK looked the stronger: he won.

Women leade are not exempted from this clause: great women leaders also
appear strong. Margaret Thacher, Ellen
Johnson Sirleaf, Aja Fatoumata Jallow, Angela Markel, etc all this women have something in common-law well apart from being kickass women leaders and trailblazers.

Remember the archetypal image of Margaret Thatcher

Thatcher developed an image of enormous physical strength even though, in truth, she would probably have lost an arm-wrestle with any one of the so- called ‘wets’ in her Cabinet. It’s not being strong that matters
in the Language of Leadership, it’s seeming strong.The Look of Leadership is largely an illusion. And Thatcher certainly
seemed strong, even though it was all a creation: her
breathy, low voice, her broad shoulder pads and high
heels and, of course, the metaphoric imagery of the ‘Iron Lady’ (a phrase that was actually coined by the Russians).

The voice is an important tool in body language. Sometimes it’s not what you say but about how you say it. The voice indicates strength. A low voice is a sign of strength. In the USA, all eight presidential elections between 1960 and 2000, the candidate with the lower voice won the popular vote.
When it comes to women also, the shrill voice is looked up as nagging, that is why such women are trained to speak in a low voice. Magret Thatcher is said to have received training, so did Hillary Clinton.

In some instances we need help as women and that help might come with just a simple lowering of the voice.
So when you’ve worked on everything else and the spice of the voice.

Pause to show strength. Great speakers tend to clock in at around 90 words a

minute. They achieve this rate not by speaking in a slow, tedious, patronis-
ing way, which would rapidly become very irritating and annoying, but by

leaving pauses between each idea: pauses that give people time to think.

2017 : new year new me syndrome



It’s a new year, and we are here today.

What have we done to be here? is it because we are the bravest? the strongest? the healthiest ? the smartest? The love of God is amazing isn’t it? His immense love and mercy has brought us this far, even though we are not the best nor the most beautiful. He is omniscient and omnipresent,  so I believe he has a reason for us being here.

 Lamentations 3: 22 and 23 contain some precious promises. Here we learn that God’s mercies and compassion do not fail; they are “new every morning”. Such being the case, we can start each day with the humble, confident assurance that whatever the day may bring, God will be near to help. In the book of Psalms, we find that the writer was in the habit of starting the day with God. We read “Morning by morning, O Lord, You hear my voice; morning by morning I lay my requests before You and wait in expectation” (Psalm 5:3 NIV).

So, my new year started at in a very unique way.:) ( Ask me about it, I might tell you)

And I felt,like many, that NEW YEAR NEW ME……This disease is contagious as much as we  deny it.

We normally hear the usual, “I’m going to start eating healthier and going to the gym more,” line when you ask someone what their New Year’s Resolution is. That’s an awesome goal to have, but if you’re going to be a “new person” this year, there are a lot more important things that you’re going to need to focus on. It’s much more important to start on things that are inside of you.So I come up with my own thing that you can do this few months when you are going through deciding on new year new me theme. Please not that this is in addition to your resolutions.

  1. 1d07f10360a346fb439e71b54019f710Know your personality type.
  2. Focus more on your strengths and personal improvement everday.
  3. Read about emotional intelligence
  4. 31fdfbd57fc955dfc6efd67041142391Do something you’ve never done before. Spend on something worthwhile ( definitely not shoes….think long term here) or should I say” invest”
  5. Leave the whats App, Facebook and other social media groups that you don’t understand the purpose or know only one person. If britain left who are you not to leave groups that don’t benefit you? click-on-exit-in-whatsapp-web
  6. Clean your mail box
  7. Drink more water. It is January and the sun out there is hot hot hot, buy a water bottle, curry water wherever you go.
  8.  Have snacks, healthy snacks.
  9. Learn to say NO
It’s easy to say no when your priorities are in order


Just do it!

10. Start today 

If you want what you never had, do what you’ve never done
This is chart is helpful especially to those of us who fall into the pessimistic group.

And just know that, no matter what you decide to accomplish in the next 360 days to the end of this year,…..

0df872650f30d235b7c43846ca2eda3a you can do it. Go for it.