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When will it be your turn?


Hello again world, we meet again.

Hope you guys have been well and behaved yourselves.

So much has happened, so little has changed. What I have learned is:  I prefer being condor to everything in this life and would prefer that being reciprocated. My love language is acts of service, I read the book 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, a friend of mine asked me what is my love language so I went and read and afterwards did the quiz.  So apparently, my love language is acts of service. So in the Love language proficiency levels, in acts of service I am a five, meaning a native speaker,  to quality time:a four meaning able  to use the language fluently and accurately on all levels pertinent to professional needs. And my least is level zero, and this language is physical touch; this means I have no practical speaking proficiency and No practical reading proficiency.Just means it’s my physical touch as a love language is like my knowledge of the Slovak language….No Idea!  So my question is what is your love language? Let me know.

So what does that have to do with the title of this post, one is that when my friend, Lydia, suggested the title and  two, it means we as humans have a tendency to want to be compliant, to be part of the group, to feel part of, to follow the flock. We follow trends, fashion, we simply follow the pack. Like birds in a flock or sheep in a pasture, we follow — sometimes at our own peril…….or to stardom.  So basically, what  I want to talk about is that we tend not to realize we need something until we see someone else with it and we tend to think what fits the other will fit me mentality.

If you are an avid follower of my post , I might have mentioned a friend of mine getting married to her over ten years boyfriend, my ‘it’ couple, so progress report is that they got married. The wedding was amazing!! And on another grand event in my life, my big brother, my one and only big brother got married. And what I noticed is that, at all wedding receptions, all single people were being asked ” when will  it be your turn?” “you are next!” Next is so and so..” some people even started looking at their girlfriends a little differently and savings increased. Do we see this trend? you attend a wedding to notice that marriage exists. We see a friend getting a haircut and we remember we need a haircut too. A friend braids their hair and ALAS! I have to do my hair.Or have you taken a friend shopping and you find yourself buying more than the friend you accompanied……It happens. You are not alone.

So why are people conformists,my  explanation is that our brains get confused between what it sees and what others tell us.Conformism means the tendency to adopt the attitudes, behavior, dress, etc, of the group to which one belongs. basically looking like this:    

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In my head it just means fitting in.Not that I am against fitting it but i am of the idea, let me start from here:

There are 12 million millionaires in the world, but only 2,325 billionaires.That’s an exclusive club, of which the likes of Warren Buffett, Jack Ma, and Oprah Winfrey are members. 

That is what gets me going,being the top few. The selected few. the cream, the cherry on top. There is this type of people who get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, watch their TV shows and then go to sleep to get ready for the next day.They’re such a hard worker and they live such a stressful life. Looking at all the great people that God used in the Bible they were not the one of the majority they were the selected few. Selected few in a sense that the has character that withstood time. David was  tall, strong, handsome.These are the sorts of things we first see when we look at someone too as they are easy to see. Some people might look for a handsome face, others for good grooming or good dress sense but while these things have some value in themselves, they are obviously not what God was looking for. God looks at the hearts, and David is called a man after God’s heart.

My point in all this, the road to destruction is wide. Mathew 7;13: “You can enter God’s Kingdom only through the narrow gate. The highway to hell is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose that way.    

That is all I can say, God created each one of us for a reason and a purpose for a specif time. lets not try to imitate or copy paste what the other is doing and forget ourselves because in the end, we will give a report.

That is all my good people. Hope you are keeping your hair moisturized and healthy.

See you soon.

Get right with God 🙂

Josepha

 

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New Waves New Tides


HELLO WORLD!!!!

I know it has been a while since you’ve heard from me.  I’ve been thinking about you, wanting for such a long time to reach out.  I just haven’t been quite sure until now, what I was going to say.
You see, I have been somewhat under the radar, having what I often describe cocooning
There has been so much that has been changing for me personally and professionally on a very deep level these past two-three months.  The shifts I’ve been experiencing are amazing and won’t trade them for anything. The new responsibilities have or rather are teaching me to re position and elevate my thoughts, ideas and everything else; this level of transformation takes on new immediacy and layers of meaning when it happens to you.
The truth is that I have felt like I have been trekking through the desert these past months, navigating shifting sands, going through an intensive period of introspection, consolidation, expansion and growth.

Whether you are a loyal or long term reader be sure of more information and consistency. As for my personal life/ life’s challenges, the major unexpected changes I have been going through, at last, make sense.

In the meanwhile, I just wanted to remind you how much it means to me that we are connected and I am just so excited for you to get to know more about natural hair, how to take care of it, and the healthy over length journey and over all growing and being steward of God’s gifts and talents.

As we move into this Month ( BIRTHDAY MONTH!!! ) August 6th. My message and wish for you is Joel 2: 23,25,26 and 27:

2So be happy, people of Zion.
    Be joyful in the Lord your God.
He is good and will give you rain.
    He will send the early rains and the late rains as before.
25 “I, the Lord, sent my army against you.
    The swarming locusts and the hopping locusts
    and the destroying locusts and the cutting locusts[a] ate everything you had.
But I will pay you back
    for those years of trouble.
26 Then you will have plenty to eat.
    You will be full.
You will praise the name of the Lord your God.
    He has done wonderful things for you.
My people will never again be ashamed.
27 You will know that I am with Israel.
    You will know that I am the Lord your God.
    There is no other God.
My people will never be ashamed again.”

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What is it that you give in a relationships ?


Once I said I was going to talk about relationships but all over a sudden i got the heat for hair things and entirely forgot. Sorry to those who waited for it and were disappointed. I am working on it though so that  I can have a separate section for natural hair and another for such topics as this. Please bare with me as  i organize myself.

So my take on relationships.

“It is up to each person to recognize his or her true preferences.”
Isabel Briggs Myers
 One of my friends’sister is getting married soon. I have never been so excited about two people getting married like these two. Why, you may ask. One is that, this couple is probably one in a million, or billion. The guy has had a crush on the girl since class five. 18++ years later they are getting married. The long and short of this story is that they give me hope for a proper relationship not the one that is presented to us in the media. There is work in a relationship, there is family involved in a relationship. You cannot give what you don’t have. If you don’t know who you are. What you stand for. What are your boundaries. How far are you willing to go. If you cannot be intentional or what it means to be intentional. I believe these things are important,if you can’t answer any of them, what are you offering? A body????
 I  can say there is a lot  involved for it to come to be, sustenance and growth. Have you ever looked at something and it’s just there, where it was a year ago, no progress. I hate such friendships, you always have to walk on tip toes with such people, on eggshells all the time, you can’t  be frank with them ( I have a thing for frankness) you can’t be honest because they will stop talking to you. Such friendships suck big time y’all! I take the same take on relationships,  if we ain’t moving mountains lets just crumble this whole thing.

 

‘ if love can be chemically induced does it matter if the lovers will do the dry cleaning anyways? the point The Effect ( A singaporean theatre production) makes is that there is a difference between infatuation and love. The former can be kindled by volatile chemicals made to react under controlled situations, but love requires steady hard work unfazed by personal catastrophe.’

– Akshita Nanda

Relationships is about something bigger, than just momentary, monetary pleasures. It is about love. It’s about growth.

I am an ENFP( one of the sixteen types of personality.) meaning i don’t like monotonous things. I prefer to focus externally, the world around me,  I prioritize people and emotions. I am curious to know what makes people tick. So, intellectual curiosity is very important to me. This is to mean that, relationships require a conversation. A relationship is a between two people, if you cannot hold a conversation going for more than one hour what are you doing. Which brings me to the next thing I think people of my age should consider, long term.

A relationship is long term. You select this human being and decide to upgrade them on the higher scale of friendship by adding romance. This human being will affect you, change you, influence you, understand you, be there for you, hold you down. If it’s a two days thing then it’s not a relationship. And won’t it be nice to invest in something that will make us happy for such a long time. I mean have pity on your heart and brain. Introducing each month or year to your heart a new human being and ending up broken is hard.

So may take really is, relationships is a lot  of work, but when you enjoy what you are doing time passes by so fast. So select that one human being who makes life fun and upgrade him/her from the friendship level to the romance level. Remember what they say: are you equally yorked?
Jo-