Tips for those who want to learn on the job.

It’s a jungle out there
Disorder and confusion everywhere
No one seems to care
Well I do
Hey, who’s in charge here?
It’s a jungle out there
Poison in the very air we breathe
Do you know what’s in the water that you drink?
Well I do, and it’s amazing

These lyrics of It’s a Jungle out There by Randy Newman cannot be further from the truth if you are in a new environment. Especially a new corporate environment. And to add spice to the source- your first corporate job.

It is jungle out there and few survive and I am spongely learning.

In my journey of bettering myself for the projects that I plan to undertake in the coming months, I have taken off to uncharted territories, territories with so much rules and regulations. Territories where I have to look a certain way. Which is something I thought I would not conform to.

In this jungle of a place, I have come to learn a few things and would wish to share.

1.Observe the tasks, people and the overall environment and adjust to the kind of conditions you know exist in your office. Learn everything you can as you go along; this will ultimately help you if you have a career plan in mind.

2. Be a sponge. Start by listening and learning. Set aside what you know, just for a bit. Immerse yourself. Take the time to understand how things are done and why they are done that way. There will be a time and place to bring experiences to bear, but first, absorb.  Don’t forego the opportunity to first integrate into your new world.

3. Curiosity. React with genuine questions and sincerely pursue the “why.” Curiosity, unburdened by the baggage of judgement, is the universal solvent.

4. Moment of choice. The shoshin path – “I don’t understand this. I want to understand why we do things this way,” – an approach which springs from the belief that my confusion results from a lack of knowledge. Or, the been-there-done-that path: “Since I don’t understand this, it’s probably stupid.” Since it’s hard to mask how we genuinely feel, adjusting how we genuinely feel is significantly more important than what we say.

5. Build relationships. Effective relationships are a platform on which everything else rests, but they take time and care to cultivate.

Hope you find this helpful in your learning endeavour.

N.B shoshin (which in secular parlance means “innocence” or “inexperience”) refers to a beginner’s mind—a state of openness and wonder that allows a person to approach life unfettered by the preconceptions, biases or habits associated with knowledge and experience.

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A flirty sun

When the sun shines, and the birds come out to play,
take your mind off the worst and make it a better day. But there are days when it wakes you up, then, it hides behind the clouds and you are left wondering whether to carry an umbrella.

Let boys want pleasure and men
Struggle for power, and women perhaps for fame,
And the servile to serve a Leader and the dupes to be duped.
Yours is not theirs.  But sun set before it was solved. the flirty sun you are.

Make a commitment sun, make a commitment to set only when the republic is revolutionized a new. Only set when our leaders are servants. Only set when my hard earned taxes are put to good use when the roads are built; when the public hospitals are equipped; when doctors and nurses are not on minimum wage.

Flirty sun, don’t be overpowered by the pregnant clouds. They only bring doom. Houses have fallen, bridges are down.

Flirty sun, the cold weather is too romantic for the heartbroken.  Shine and soothe. Shine to help us find the needle to knit back the pieces together.

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The little things of my country

Rwanda Nziza

Gihugu cyacu,

Rwanda my country.

There are those little things that make me feel nice inside about being Rwandan or living in Rwanda, the little time I spend there.

1. Banana juice. ( umutobe) All the benefits of a banana in juice.

2. Fanta Citron. ( need I say more)

3. Agatogo….

And let me stop there as I might not want you to think of me as a foodie, even though I might me…. Or not..

Then there is the people. My very hospitable people.

One thing that I know about Rwandans is that family is very important. Family and neighbors..

The best is seen during weddings. Weddings are a family affair.

Whether the people have money or not, they will come ” gutwerera” this is to give a gift.

This can be in form of monetary but the best are the ones that just come and help you out in the house, help you make tea/porridge , rent you their bassin…just simply anything and everything to make things go smoothly.

This is also seen in times of mourning.

( I recently lost my grandma, on 8th of March, may her soul rest in peace. She was 96 years old and had great great grandchildren. She lived well….. She died peacefully. Rest in peace grandma)

Anyway, so there past few weeks I have been seeing how the community comes together to comfort you in your lowest time.

I thank God who chose me to be Rwandan.

And the greetings on the streets. They take you out of your thoughts.

How precious is life.

What I am currently reading :

What we are loving from the garden

Have a great week ahead.

Modern day Ndabaga

There is this story in my culture that is close to my heart.

Once upon a time, there was a couple that had a daughter named Ndabaga. Men in that time were required to work in the service of the king, and were to be replaced by their sons. Growing up,Ndabaga learned of her father’s situation of perpetual service to the King and became determined to be as strong and adept at male skills as any of the young men in the Kingdom. She succeeds not only in her abilities but also in her disguise, which included the pressing down of her breasts. Ndabaga then goes to the king’s residence, finds her father on her own, and offers herself as her father’s replacement. The father, though very against her ruse, decides to take Ndabaga to the king.

Now serving as her father’s replacement, Ndabaga, having achieved boys’ skills to such high degrees, impresses the king to the extent that he asks her to be a leader in his camp. Some of the men become jealous and suspect that Ndabaga is actually not a man and ultimately report to the King their suspicion. The King decides to see if Ndabaga is indeed a man or not. He challenges challenges Ndabaga but can no one is able throw her down. Finally, he asks her straight out whether she his a man or not. Ndabaga confesses that she is actually a girl but that she did all this to replace her father and to release her mother of her shame. The King is impressed, marries Ndabaga, and releases all men from his camp who are in his perpetual service.

Reasons, why I love this story ,are :

One, it’s about a girl. There are not many good stories out there.

Two, it’s about the history of my land
Three, it’s a love story.

Four: kingdoms and family responsibility

Anyway, my point in telling the story was to point out a few things. One about our work here on this earth.

Wes Moore, explained it better in his speech “your job and your work” at UCLA Super Soul Sessions. ( Iconic TV personality Oprah Winfrey hosts this series that has spiritual leaders and luminaries sharing their thoughts to help raise the collective consciousness)

Wes Moore is the CEO of Robin Hood, the largest anti-poverty nonprofit in New York City.
He mentiones three things : identifying, calcifying and unifying.
1. Identify
Identify that one thing that makes your heart beat faster.

Someone could give you the most heart warming speech about something that is important to them, if it does not make your heart beat faster. It’s not your work.

If they say let visit a children’s home, if it doesn’t make your heart beat faster, it does not mean you are a monster. It just means it’s not your work. Your work is very personal. It’s not about the issue of the day, it’s the issue of your life.

2. Calcify

The goal is not to start something, the goal is to end something. This does not mean founding something.

We don’t need 100,000 organisations for domestic violence. We need the work done. People passionate, working on it.

I mean we need actually work, my dear millenials. Not out bios and hashtags. Real work on the ground.


Make sure the people you are trying to help are part of the conversation. Or as Wes Moore said ” your altruism will be seen as paternalism”

The story of Ndabaga clearly shows these three things. Get involved in things that you make your heart move faster. Calcify it!! Calcify it , my people! And make sure to unify it. It’s not about you. It’s about the people. Involve the people.