Women’s voice betrayal.


The greatest leaders in history have all seemed strong: though all in different ways. Some built strong into their names: William the Conqueror,
Richard the Lionheart, Alexander the Great. Even our African kings had such names: Tenkamenin, Shaka Zulu, Samore You’re, Mansa Musse,etc. The
rest actually strong , Nelson Mandela working out in prison; and the more
recent crop of athletic- looking leaders: the Obamas in the gym, Christine
Lagarde’s daily swimming and Tim Cook with his 5am workouts. Paul Kagame walks and many others.
Strength is not necessarily physical fitness- we all know what happens with Goriath and David. 1 Samuel 17. That is what meets our
instinctive needs. People need to know that their leader will defend them
from external threats. They must look as if they will fight tooth and nail on our
behalf. It’s not about whether they are strong, it’s whether they seem strong.
Appearance is what matters, not reality. It might seem superficial, but this is
the way leaders are judged. Famously in the 1960 Nixon– Kennedy presidential
debates, those who listened on the radio thought that Nixon was the winner,
those who watched it on TV thought Kennedy came out best. The difference
was appearance: where JFK looked tanned, slim and healthy, Nixon spilled out
over his ill- fitting suit, twitched and sweated. JFK looked the stronger: he won.

Women leade are not exempted from this clause: great women leaders also
appear strong. Margaret Thacher, Ellen
Johnson Sirleaf, Aja Fatoumata Jallow, Angela Markel, etc all this women have something in common-law well apart from being kickass women leaders and trailblazers.

Remember the archetypal image of Margaret Thatcher

Thatcher developed an image of enormous physical strength even though, in truth, she would probably have lost an arm-wrestle with any one of the so- called ‘wets’ in her Cabinet. It’s not being strong that matters
in the Language of Leadership, it’s seeming strong.The Look of Leadership is largely an illusion. And Thatcher certainly
seemed strong, even though it was all a creation: her
breathy, low voice, her broad shoulder pads and high
heels and, of course, the metaphoric imagery of the ‘Iron Lady’ (a phrase that was actually coined by the Russians).

The voice is an important tool in body language. Sometimes it’s not what you say but about how you say it. The voice indicates strength. A low voice is a sign of strength. In the USA, all eight presidential elections between 1960 and 2000, the candidate with the lower voice won the popular vote.
When it comes to women also, the shrill voice is looked up as nagging, that is why such women are trained to speak in a low voice. Magret Thatcher is said to have received training, so did Hillary Clinton.

In some instances we need help as women and that help might come with just a simple lowering of the voice.
So when you’ve worked on everything else and the spice of the voice.

Tip
Pause to show strength. Great speakers tend to clock in at around 90 words a

minute. They achieve this rate not by speaking in a slow, tedious, patronis-
ing way, which would rapidly become very irritating and annoying, but by

leaving pauses between each idea: pauses that give people time to think.

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Thanksgiving, Umuganura


I called my sister from work to tell her  happy thanksgiving and she told me she was asleep and was dreaming eating maize, you know the multicolored maize? This one: photo-1471199855351-450fa931304c

Umuganura is a public holiday in Rwanda, observed on the first Friday in August.

Also known also as Thanksgiving Day or National harvest day, it is a celebration of the beginning of the harvest.

Let me share a bit of history

Umuganura means ‘first-fruits festival’ and can be dated back over a thousand years. It is one of the most important festivals and holidays in Rwanda.

Despite its long history, Umuganura has only been a public holiday since 2011. Its celebration was suppressed during Rwanda’s colonial period.

The focus of the traditional Umuganura was to give the harvest the blessing of the ancestors. This would happen first at a family level focused on that family’s ancestors, then the community would come together to have a wider celebration.

Nowadays, while the festival is still seen as having a focus on the harvest – giving thanks for the current year and a time to think about how to improve future harvests, it is also an opportunity for a yearly celebration of achievements from all sectors that contribute to the development of the country.

So this also marks my New year, I am three days into this new year and waah, so much can happen in a year.

My last year, 2017/2018 was a learning curve. I left my post as a student leader, I gave my self to love and laugh and I tried out new things, very many new things.

What I am thankful is cooked food. My roommates, I would come home to cooked food since January this year. The love in our house was and is amazing.

Now One of my girl’s is married. Urugo Ruhire, Mamy!

One of us lost her dad, RIP papa Vava.

But we thank God almighty.

So plans for this year.

 

Travel. Travel and eat and travel once more. TRAVEL. So help me God.

What are you thankful for this month?

Growing deeper roots


Nothing is holier, nothing is more exemplary than a beautiful, strong tree. When a tree is cut down and reveals its naked death-wound to the sun, one can read its whole history in the luminous, inscribed disk of its trunk: in the rings of its years, its scars, all the struggle, all the suffering, all the sickness, all the happiness and prosperity stand truly written, the narrow years and the luxurious years, the attacks withstood, the storms endured.

We have all heard that a tree is as strong as how deep its roots are.

It has rained 5 times, as far as I could count. In Kenya we have been experiencing drought in some places. The heat since December last year up to date has been heart wrenching. In my campus the results of the lack of water is evident. The once beautiful green scenery is now brown and dusty.

But in all that chaos, there are trees that are blooming. A beautiful sight to behold. These trees seem to bloom at the weirdest times. As  I  have come to learn, they are:Bonfire Patio Peach,African tulip tree,Pink Poui….etc . What makes them leave beyond the current situation. Answer: how deep their roots are. As much as this is true it is also important to note that  tree roots follow the oxygen-rich macropores, whether they are in deep or shallow soils. The volume of this soil type determines above else how large the trees will grow.

So in that long story, or short. I wanted to say that i am growing my roots, looking for a rich soil.

I am working on a project of looking for mentors for former street children who are now in different children’s home. This not only helps the children but also helps those who want to give back but don’t know how to.

If you would like to volunteer your time in impacting these young minds ,contact me.

And as a leader is one who reads. Been reading on how the likes of Joanna Lipper and Erin Bernhardt have been able to produce and direct such heart touching stories. In my growing deep. I want to explore the art of humanitarian documentary.  It is where i feel my heart is. And youknow what they say about home and heart. #homeiswheretheheartis

When we are stricken and cannot bear our lives any longer, then a tree has something to say to us: Be still! Be still! Look at me! Life is not easy, life is not difficult. Those are childish thoughts. Let God speak within you, and your thoughts will grow silent. You are anxious because your path leads away from mother and home. But every step and every day lead you back again to the mother. Home is neither here nor there. Home is within you, or home is nowhere at all.― Hermann Hesse, Bäume. Betrachtungen und Gedichte

So tell me, how are you growing deep. Let’s talk

-Jo

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When will it be your turn?


Hello again world, we meet again.

Hope you guys have been well and behaved yourselves.

So much has happened, so little has changed. What I have learned is:  I prefer being condor to everything in this life and would prefer that being reciprocated. My love language is acts of service, I read the book 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, a friend of mine asked me what is my love language so I went and read and afterwards did the quiz.  So apparently, my love language is acts of service. So in the Love language proficiency levels, in acts of service I am a five, meaning a native speaker,  to quality time:a four meaning able  to use the language fluently and accurately on all levels pertinent to professional needs. And my least is level zero, and this language is physical touch; this means I have no practical speaking proficiency and No practical reading proficiency.Just means it’s my physical touch as a love language is like my knowledge of the Slovak language….No Idea!  So my question is what is your love language? Let me know.

So what does that have to do with the title of this post, one is that when my friend, Lydia, suggested the title and  two, it means we as humans have a tendency to want to be compliant, to be part of the group, to feel part of, to follow the flock. We follow trends, fashion, we simply follow the pack. Like birds in a flock or sheep in a pasture, we follow — sometimes at our own peril…….or to stardom.  So basically, what  I want to talk about is that we tend not to realize we need something until we see someone else with it and we tend to think what fits the other will fit me mentality.

If you are an avid follower of my post , I might have mentioned a friend of mine getting married to her over ten years boyfriend, my ‘it’ couple, so progress report is that they got married. The wedding was amazing!! And on another grand event in my life, my big brother, my one and only big brother got married. And what I noticed is that, at all wedding receptions, all single people were being asked ” when will  it be your turn?” “you are next!” Next is so and so..” some people even started looking at their girlfriends a little differently and savings increased. Do we see this trend? you attend a wedding to notice that marriage exists. We see a friend getting a haircut and we remember we need a haircut too. A friend braids their hair and ALAS! I have to do my hair.Or have you taken a friend shopping and you find yourself buying more than the friend you accompanied……It happens. You are not alone.

So why are people conformists,my  explanation is that our brains get confused between what it sees and what others tell us.Conformism means the tendency to adopt the attitudes, behavior, dress, etc, of the group to which one belongs. basically looking like this:    

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In my head it just means fitting in.Not that I am against fitting it but i am of the idea, let me start from here:

There are 12 million millionaires in the world, but only 2,325 billionaires.That’s an exclusive club, of which the likes of Warren Buffett, Jack Ma, and Oprah Winfrey are members. 

That is what gets me going,being the top few. The selected few. the cream, the cherry on top. There is this type of people who get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, watch their TV shows and then go to sleep to get ready for the next day.They’re such a hard worker and they live such a stressful life. Looking at all the great people that God used in the Bible they were not the one of the majority they were the selected few. Selected few in a sense that the has character that withstood time. David was  tall, strong, handsome.These are the sorts of things we first see when we look at someone too as they are easy to see. Some people might look for a handsome face, others for good grooming or good dress sense but while these things have some value in themselves, they are obviously not what God was looking for. God looks at the hearts, and David is called a man after God’s heart.

My point in all this, the road to destruction is wide. Mathew 7;13: “You can enter God’s Kingdom only through the narrow gate. The highway to hell is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose that way.    

That is all I can say, God created each one of us for a reason and a purpose for a specif time. lets not try to imitate or copy paste what the other is doing and forget ourselves because in the end, we will give a report.

That is all my good people. Hope you are keeping your hair moisturized and healthy.

See you soon.

Get right with God 🙂

Josepha

 

New Waves New Tides


HELLO WORLD!!!!

I know it has been a while since you’ve heard from me.  I’ve been thinking about you, wanting for such a long time to reach out.  I just haven’t been quite sure until now, what I was going to say.
You see, I have been somewhat under the radar, having what I often describe cocooning
There has been so much that has been changing for me personally and professionally on a very deep level these past two-three months.  The shifts I’ve been experiencing are amazing and won’t trade them for anything. The new responsibilities have or rather are teaching me to re position and elevate my thoughts, ideas and everything else; this level of transformation takes on new immediacy and layers of meaning when it happens to you.
The truth is that I have felt like I have been trekking through the desert these past months, navigating shifting sands, going through an intensive period of introspection, consolidation, expansion and growth.

Whether you are a loyal or long term reader be sure of more information and consistency. As for my personal life/ life’s challenges, the major unexpected changes I have been going through, at last, make sense.

In the meanwhile, I just wanted to remind you how much it means to me that we are connected and I am just so excited for you to get to know more about natural hair, how to take care of it, and the healthy over length journey and over all growing and being steward of God’s gifts and talents.

As we move into this Month ( BIRTHDAY MONTH!!! ) August 6th. My message and wish for you is Joel 2: 23,25,26 and 27:

2So be happy, people of Zion.
    Be joyful in the Lord your God.
He is good and will give you rain.
    He will send the early rains and the late rains as before.
25 “I, the Lord, sent my army against you.
    The swarming locusts and the hopping locusts
    and the destroying locusts and the cutting locusts[a] ate everything you had.
But I will pay you back
    for those years of trouble.
26 Then you will have plenty to eat.
    You will be full.
You will praise the name of the Lord your God.
    He has done wonderful things for you.
My people will never again be ashamed.
27 You will know that I am with Israel.
    You will know that I am the Lord your God.
    There is no other God.
My people will never be ashamed again.”

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