Growing deeper roots


Nothing is holier, nothing is more exemplary than a beautiful, strong tree. When a tree is cut down and reveals its naked death-wound to the sun, one can read its whole history in the luminous, inscribed disk of its trunk: in the rings of its years, its scars, all the struggle, all the suffering, all the sickness, all the happiness and prosperity stand truly written, the narrow years and the luxurious years, the attacks withstood, the storms endured.

We have all heard that a tree is as strong as how deep its roots are.

It has rained 5 times, as far as I could count. In Kenya we have been experiencing drought in some places. The heat since December last year up to date has been heart wrenching. In my campus the results of the lack of water is evident. The once beautiful green scenery is now brown and dusty.

But in all that chaos, there are trees that are blooming. A beautiful sight to behold. These trees seem to bloom at the weirdest times. As  I  have come to learn, they are:Bonfire Patio Peach,African tulip tree,Pink Poui….etc . What makes them leave beyond the current situation. Answer: how deep their roots are. As much as this is true it is also important to note that  tree roots follow the oxygen-rich macropores, whether they are in deep or shallow soils. The volume of this soil type determines above else how large the trees will grow.

So in that long story, or short. I wanted to say that i am growing my roots, looking for a rich soil.

I am working on a project of looking for mentors for former street children who are now in different children’s home. This not only helps the children but also helps those who want to give back but don’t know how to.

If you would like to volunteer your time in impacting these young minds ,contact me.

And as a leader is one who reads. Been reading on how the likes of Joanna Lipper and Erin Bernhardt have been able to produce and direct such heart touching stories. In my growing deep. I want to explore the art of humanitarian documentary.  It is where i feel my heart is. And youknow what they say about home and heart. #homeiswheretheheartis

When we are stricken and cannot bear our lives any longer, then a tree has something to say to us: Be still! Be still! Look at me! Life is not easy, life is not difficult. Those are childish thoughts. Let God speak within you, and your thoughts will grow silent. You are anxious because your path leads away from mother and home. But every step and every day lead you back again to the mother. Home is neither here nor there. Home is within you, or home is nowhere at all.― Hermann Hesse, Bäume. Betrachtungen und Gedichte

So tell me, how are you growing deep. Let’s talk

-Jo

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2017 : new year new me syndrome


HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

It’s 2017, TWO THOUSAND AND SEVENTEEN!!!!!

It’s a new year, and we are here today.

What have we done to be here? is it because we are the bravest? the strongest? the healthiest ? the smartest? The love of God is amazing isn’t it? His immense love and mercy has brought us this far, even though we are not the best nor the most beautiful. He is omniscient and omnipresent,  so I believe he has a reason for us being here.

 Lamentations 3: 22 and 23 contain some precious promises. Here we learn that God’s mercies and compassion do not fail; they are “new every morning”. Such being the case, we can start each day with the humble, confident assurance that whatever the day may bring, God will be near to help. In the book of Psalms, we find that the writer was in the habit of starting the day with God. We read “Morning by morning, O Lord, You hear my voice; morning by morning I lay my requests before You and wait in expectation” (Psalm 5:3 NIV).

So, my new year started at in a very unique way.:) ( Ask me about it, I might tell you)

And I felt,like many, that NEW YEAR NEW ME……This disease is contagious as much as we  deny it.

We normally hear the usual, “I’m going to start eating healthier and going to the gym more,” line when you ask someone what their New Year’s Resolution is. That’s an awesome goal to have, but if you’re going to be a “new person” this year, there are a lot more important things that you’re going to need to focus on. It’s much more important to start on things that are inside of you.So I come up with my own thing that you can do this few months when you are going through deciding on new year new me theme. Please not that this is in addition to your resolutions.

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  2. Focus more on your strengths and personal improvement everday.
  3. Read about emotional intelligence
  4. 31fdfbd57fc955dfc6efd67041142391Do something you’ve never done before. Spend on something worthwhile ( definitely not shoes….think long term here) or should I say” invest”
  5. Leave the whats App, Facebook and other social media groups that you don’t understand the purpose or know only one person. If britain left who are you not to leave groups that don’t benefit you? click-on-exit-in-whatsapp-web
  6. Clean your mail box
  7. Drink more water. It is January and the sun out there is hot hot hot, buy a water bottle, curry water wherever you go.
  8.  Have snacks, healthy snacks.
  9. Learn to say NO
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It’s easy to say no when your priorities are in order

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Just do it!

10. Start today 

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If you want what you never had, do what you’ve never done
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This is chart is helpful especially to those of us who fall into the pessimistic group.

And just know that, no matter what you decide to accomplish in the next 360 days to the end of this year,…..

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New Waves New Tides


HELLO WORLD!!!!

I know it has been a while since you’ve heard from me.  I’ve been thinking about you, wanting for such a long time to reach out.  I just haven’t been quite sure until now, what I was going to say.
You see, I have been somewhat under the radar, having what I often describe cocooning
There has been so much that has been changing for me personally and professionally on a very deep level these past two-three months.  The shifts I’ve been experiencing are amazing and won’t trade them for anything. The new responsibilities have or rather are teaching me to re position and elevate my thoughts, ideas and everything else; this level of transformation takes on new immediacy and layers of meaning when it happens to you.
The truth is that I have felt like I have been trekking through the desert these past months, navigating shifting sands, going through an intensive period of introspection, consolidation, expansion and growth.

Whether you are a loyal or long term reader be sure of more information and consistency. As for my personal life/ life’s challenges, the major unexpected changes I have been going through, at last, make sense.

In the meanwhile, I just wanted to remind you how much it means to me that we are connected and I am just so excited for you to get to know more about natural hair, how to take care of it, and the healthy over length journey and over all growing and being steward of God’s gifts and talents.

As we move into this Month ( BIRTHDAY MONTH!!! ) August 6th. My message and wish for you is Joel 2: 23,25,26 and 27:

2So be happy, people of Zion.
    Be joyful in the Lord your God.
He is good and will give you rain.
    He will send the early rains and the late rains as before.
25 “I, the Lord, sent my army against you.
    The swarming locusts and the hopping locusts
    and the destroying locusts and the cutting locusts[a] ate everything you had.
But I will pay you back
    for those years of trouble.
26 Then you will have plenty to eat.
    You will be full.
You will praise the name of the Lord your God.
    He has done wonderful things for you.
My people will never again be ashamed.
27 You will know that I am with Israel.
    You will know that I am the Lord your God.
    There is no other God.
My people will never be ashamed again.”

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The confusion of missing someone


whenever things change, whenever the one person you talk to before bed is away,far off and you can’t explain why, you curl yourself and hold yourself in a fatal position.  Before we even go there let me share this poem by Elizabeth Barrett Browning

I have been in the meadows all the day
And gathered there the nosegay that you see
Singing within myself as bird or bee
When such do field-work on a morn of May.
But, now I look upon my flowers, decay
Has met them in my hands more fatally
Because more warmly clasped,–and sobs are free
To come instead of songs. What do you say,
Sweet counselors, dear friends ? that I should go
Back straightway to the fields and gather more ?
Another, sooth, may do it, but not I !
My heart is very tired, my strength is low,
My hands are full of blossoms plucked before,
Held dead within them till myself shall die.

So as much as we as human being are and can try to be as optimistic as they can, we just find ourselves looking at the flowers, we woke up very early in the morning to pick up, decay in our hands and just seat there and listen to the most depressing love songs in the hope that things will bloom again and life will be okay. Asking ourselves if love is a verb or an noun or even an adjective that no one has ever been able to understand.

So as I am learning that I have not grown it this  area of defining the words in my vocabulary for the last 6 years, bare with me and let’s define the words we use. Yesterday while I was having a chat with an old friend of mine, there was this thing she said that is still haunting me at this moment, why do you want him to text you, chicka you got a crush!?!!!!! there are those things that make one feel manipulable, vulnerable  and such, mine is  being not in control and wanting, needing someone for something, missing someone is very confusing for and to me.

I would like to look at the different way people have defined missing someone.There is this song: parler a mon pere by Celine Dion, where she says that she would like like to go where my heart feels safe.. cross the oceans…but above all I would like to talk to my father. It’s a very nice song but it does not answer my question.

“Henry was learning that time apart has a way of creating distance- more than mountains and time zone separating them. Real distance, the kind that makes you ache and stop wondering. Longing so bad that it begins to hurt to care so much.”
― Jamie Ford, Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

When I read that it made sense because there is that ache that one feels. Then again

“However much you have been wanting and hoping and dreaming of meeting the person of your dreams, it is only when you meet them that you will start missing them. It seems that the presence of an object is required to make its absence felt (or to make the absence of something felt). A kind of longing may have preceded their arrival, but you have to meet in order to feel the full force of your frustration in their absence.”
― Adam Phillips, Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life

I don’t know how true that is, but i am sure it could be true. 🙂

“It’s hard when you miss people. But you know if you miss them, that means you’re lucky. It means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing.”
― Nikki Schiefelbein

Remember the saying it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I think it applies here.

And then there is the crazy, stalker, psychopathic, creepy and sorrowful that chills you like that big eyed kid in the horror movies, who is too adorable but is the mastermind of the whole demons and killings:

“I’m awful about your name. I still jump when I hear it. I still feel it rattling somewhere in my stomach. I think I’m jealous of anyone that gets to say it because it’s not my right anymore. Years from now I’ll be standing in a supermarket and someone will casually brush past me, your name falling from their mouth like confetti. I’ll drop everything that I’m holding. My knees will wobble in the way they only did when I was with you. Years from now I’ll still remember how your name tasted in my mouth and I’ll have to start missing you all over again.”
― Azra.T

“Have u loved someone so deep in your heart, u wanted to keep them hidden & all to yourself?”
― Dinesh Kumar Biran

CREEPPPY I TELL YOU!!!!!!

Anyway, there is this new one that has surfaced with all this social media phenomena that has creaped in our lives.

“Its been a long time we both talked properly. I guess its because many thing went wrong between us and I know its difficult to get back on the road; road on which we used to travel before. You know every time I open my messenger the first thing that i check is that whether you’re online or not. Let’s begin again and try not to discuss on old shits.. Love you”
― Taimoor Madni

And then above all there is that one you feel, that one that you can’t explain even if you tried. That psssshhhhh one that has no word in the dictionary that could very well say it.There is this kind, my dear friends, that make you want to listen to opera music because that way you can scream and shout and the music accompaniments will still be in rhythm.

I am dealing with mine while listening to Beethoven Symphony Number 7.

Note: to those that have asked about the difference between natural hair and permed/ treated/ chemically treated hair, I will write about it soon.

 

What is it that you give in a relationships ?


Once I said I was going to talk about relationships but all over a sudden i got the heat for hair things and entirely forgot. Sorry to those who waited for it and were disappointed. I am working on it though so that  I can have a separate section for natural hair and another for such topics as this. Please bare with me as  i organize myself.

So my take on relationships.

“It is up to each person to recognize his or her true preferences.”
Isabel Briggs Myers
 One of my friends’sister is getting married soon. I have never been so excited about two people getting married like these two. Why, you may ask. One is that, this couple is probably one in a million, or billion. The guy has had a crush on the girl since class five. 18++ years later they are getting married. The long and short of this story is that they give me hope for a proper relationship not the one that is presented to us in the media. There is work in a relationship, there is family involved in a relationship. You cannot give what you don’t have. If you don’t know who you are. What you stand for. What are your boundaries. How far are you willing to go. If you cannot be intentional or what it means to be intentional. I believe these things are important,if you can’t answer any of them, what are you offering? A body????
 I  can say there is a lot  involved for it to come to be, sustenance and growth. Have you ever looked at something and it’s just there, where it was a year ago, no progress. I hate such friendships, you always have to walk on tip toes with such people, on eggshells all the time, you can’t  be frank with them ( I have a thing for frankness) you can’t be honest because they will stop talking to you. Such friendships suck big time y’all! I take the same take on relationships,  if we ain’t moving mountains lets just crumble this whole thing.

 

‘ if love can be chemically induced does it matter if the lovers will do the dry cleaning anyways? the point The Effect ( A singaporean theatre production) makes is that there is a difference between infatuation and love. The former can be kindled by volatile chemicals made to react under controlled situations, but love requires steady hard work unfazed by personal catastrophe.’

– Akshita Nanda

Relationships is about something bigger, than just momentary, monetary pleasures. It is about love. It’s about growth.

I am an ENFP( one of the sixteen types of personality.) meaning i don’t like monotonous things. I prefer to focus externally, the world around me,  I prioritize people and emotions. I am curious to know what makes people tick. So, intellectual curiosity is very important to me. This is to mean that, relationships require a conversation. A relationship is a between two people, if you cannot hold a conversation going for more than one hour what are you doing. Which brings me to the next thing I think people of my age should consider, long term.

A relationship is long term. You select this human being and decide to upgrade them on the higher scale of friendship by adding romance. This human being will affect you, change you, influence you, understand you, be there for you, hold you down. If it’s a two days thing then it’s not a relationship. And won’t it be nice to invest in something that will make us happy for such a long time. I mean have pity on your heart and brain. Introducing each month or year to your heart a new human being and ending up broken is hard.

So may take really is, relationships is a lot  of work, but when you enjoy what you are doing time passes by so fast. So select that one human being who makes life fun and upgrade him/her from the friendship level to the romance level. Remember what they say: are you equally yorked?
Jo-