Camellias and buddleias of life

Some plants love to be pruned, a good old pruning at that, and others would definitely rather be left alone. The likes of camellias and magnolias don’t like the idea of a prune.

Others like a good beheading, dogwoods for example, grown for it’s colourful bark, should be cut back to within 6-9cm of the ground because new shoots are much better than old ones.

Buddleias also produce it’s best colourful flowers on strong new growth. Snip, snip and snip out the weak or straggly growth completely and then cut back the other stems to within the last two pairs of buds.

Gardening is like our social life.

There was a meme on one of my friends status about : what if life is a video game that some aliens are playing. Well , if that is the case then we are a garden indeed.

In gardening , as I am coming to learn, the soil is very important and in my communication field that makes sense. The environment is very important.

But in this case I want us to see it in the sense of, the soil is you. You the person. How is your heart? How is your health? Are you allowing plants to grow enough to be pruned? Or are you a wild one? Unattended, without nutriment and the pruned has been left to the scotching sun.

Let’s examine our soil to see if we are growing as individuals. Then let’s prune if we need to. New shoots look better than the old ones.

Gardening tips :

Sculptural and architectural plants will dominate in 2019, says Joe Perkins MSDG. ” the continuing rise on popularity of houseplants is being translated from the outside with Exotic-style plants with architectural leaves and stems making bold statements. ” Joe also predicts that we will be seeing more hanging plants in our gardens. Not traditional hanging plants, but plants with foliage, colour and texture which can be used as accessories to pots and planters.

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And to learn how to grow buddleias visit this :

Let me share this picture I took of the passion fruits from my father’s garden. I can’t wait for them to be ripe 😋

The little things of my country

Rwanda Nziza

Gihugu cyacu,

Rwanda my country.

There are those little things that make me feel nice inside about being Rwandan or living in Rwanda, the little time I spend there.

1. Banana juice. ( umutobe) All the benefits of a banana in juice.

2. Fanta Citron. ( need I say more)

3. Agatogo….

And let me stop there as I might not want you to think of me as a foodie, even though I might me…. Or not..

Then there is the people. My very hospitable people.

One thing that I know about Rwandans is that family is very important. Family and neighbors..

The best is seen during weddings. Weddings are a family affair.

Whether the people have money or not, they will come ” gutwerera” this is to give a gift.

This can be in form of monetary but the best are the ones that just come and help you out in the house, help you make tea/porridge , rent you their bassin…just simply anything and everything to make things go smoothly.

This is also seen in times of mourning.

( I recently lost my grandma, on 8th of March, may her soul rest in peace. She was 96 years old and had great great grandchildren. She lived well….. She died peacefully. Rest in peace grandma)

Anyway, so there past few weeks I have been seeing how the community comes together to comfort you in your lowest time.

I thank God who chose me to be Rwandan.

And the greetings on the streets. They take you out of your thoughts.

How precious is life.

What I am currently reading :

What we are loving from the garden

Have a great week ahead.

Blogging: Tips and tricks I’ve learnt in the past few years.

_By Denise Tuyi_

When I first started blogging something I have touched a little bit about the beginning in my blog. Looking back now it was a small leap I took back then which now is a huge step to have gone faith filled to write my heart out. Last week I posted my 100th post on my blog and it feels surreal to even have to talk about this with you.

A little background about how I started blogging is both sentimental and life changing. Naturally I love writing, so when my brother asked me to try out a free website that can make my writing dreams a reality, I was intrigued.

I wrote in a couple of entries but most of the times it lay dormant. I had written Facebook notes, I had written the archaic way of writing i.e. in books and basically read as many likeminded blogs, books, websites and articles I could find. But that wasn’t enough.

Over time, I sought to perfect it every time I logged in the account(s) I created. Granted, it wasn’t easy but in all things I have learnt a few things and changes to make it worthwhile.

I tried to open as many writing blog accounts to diversify my skills after reading articles but to date I have one that is active and other two that lay dormant. It’s a good thing… follow along to get the motive behind it all as I share with you some of the most valuable things I have learned when it comes to good blogging.

This actually comes at a time when several of my friends have over time asked me to share with them some of the tips I’ve learnt and what better way than to create a list I have gained much leverage by following. So here goes:

1. When wanting to start a blog, begin with a passionate mindset.

2. Research if you have to.

3. In that same manner read other blogs of people you admire. Don’t stop there, read as wild as you can to discover where you too can curve a niche with your writing.

4. Once you have discovered your niche, begin honing that skill and seek ways to be creative on it.

5. Write, write, write and write till it becomes second to your nature.

6. Learn the scheduling trick so that when the time comes, you won’t be caught off-guard and will be credible. I find that if you have a regular posting time and a regular day to post gives your readers a chance to anticipate your posts. You can have fun and theme it or just have something that makes it fun.

7. Speaking of fun, make it fun be it posting or the blogs you post have a fun element. If you need music to go with it, by all means do it! FUN is the key to making it work.

8. Most of all, be consistent. I said it in point 6, but this deserves its own point! I can never insist on this much because as have others who became successful, CONSISTENCY IS KEY!

9. Contribute for others and have them contribute on their blogs. This not only helps break the monotony of your work but also helps you go beyond your scope and have other people who you admire give their perspective on your blog.

10. Don’t be too hard on yourself, let it flow! There’s nothing that can top that at all. EVER! Just do you, be you and in ways untold your little steps will lead you somewhere that you never anticipated.

That’s it folks. I hope this has made you smile and inspired you to write more in some way.

✨ Peace. Love. Light. ✨

Don’t you just love how easy and practical the tips are?

About the author

I was taken aback with a woman who’s background mirrored mine but whose career trajectory was years ahead of mine.
Denise is calm bold and helpful only a few people I have met are . She is someone to learn from, to stick to , I saw this right away. Back in 2017 when I followed her on all social media….


And it is a dream come true to do this with her.

Women’s voice betrayal.

The greatest leaders in history have all seemed strong: though all in different ways. Some built strong into their names: William the Conqueror,
Richard the Lionheart, Alexander the Great. Even our African kings had such names: Tenkamenin, Shaka Zulu, Samore You’re, Mansa Musse,etc. The
rest actually strong , Nelson Mandela working out in prison; and the more
recent crop of athletic- looking leaders: the Obamas in the gym, Christine
Lagarde’s daily swimming and Tim Cook with his 5am workouts. Paul Kagame walks and many others.
Strength is not necessarily physical fitness- we all know what happens with Goriath and David. 1 Samuel 17. That is what meets our
instinctive needs. People need to know that their leader will defend them
from external threats. They must look as if they will fight tooth and nail on our
behalf. It’s not about whether they are strong, it’s whether they seem strong.
Appearance is what matters, not reality. It might seem superficial, but this is
the way leaders are judged. Famously in the 1960 Nixon– Kennedy presidential
debates, those who listened on the radio thought that Nixon was the winner,
those who watched it on TV thought Kennedy came out best. The difference
was appearance: where JFK looked tanned, slim and healthy, Nixon spilled out
over his ill- fitting suit, twitched and sweated. JFK looked the stronger: he won.

Women leade are not exempted from this clause: great women leaders also
appear strong. Margaret Thacher, Ellen
Johnson Sirleaf, Aja Fatoumata Jallow, Angela Markel, etc all this women have something in common-law well apart from being kickass women leaders and trailblazers.

Remember the archetypal image of Margaret Thatcher

Thatcher developed an image of enormous physical strength even though, in truth, she would probably have lost an arm-wrestle with any one of the so- called ‘wets’ in her Cabinet. It’s not being strong that matters
in the Language of Leadership, it’s seeming strong.The Look of Leadership is largely an illusion. And Thatcher certainly
seemed strong, even though it was all a creation: her
breathy, low voice, her broad shoulder pads and high
heels and, of course, the metaphoric imagery of the ‘Iron Lady’ (a phrase that was actually coined by the Russians).

The voice is an important tool in body language. Sometimes it’s not what you say but about how you say it. The voice indicates strength. A low voice is a sign of strength. In the USA, all eight presidential elections between 1960 and 2000, the candidate with the lower voice won the popular vote.
When it comes to women also, the shrill voice is looked up as nagging, that is why such women are trained to speak in a low voice. Magret Thatcher is said to have received training, so did Hillary Clinton.

In some instances we need help as women and that help might come with just a simple lowering of the voice.
So when you’ve worked on everything else and the spice of the voice.

Pause to show strength. Great speakers tend to clock in at around 90 words a

minute. They achieve this rate not by speaking in a slow, tedious, patronis-
ing way, which would rapidly become very irritating and annoying, but by

leaving pauses between each idea: pauses that give people time to think.